IS IT JUST ME? OR, IS THERE ANYONE ELSE WHO MARRIED A MAN
THAT TURNED OUT TO BE A WOMAN ? ? ?
“My HUSBAND Looks Better in Lingerie Than I Do . . . DAMN IT” is ‘my side of our story’ and a companion memoir to “Hung in the Middle: A Journey of Gender Discovery” written by my spouse, Alana Nicole Sholar.
I had been friends with Alan for nearly 30 years and our past included a three-year intimate relationship. However, when I saw ‘Alana’ for the first time in December 2006, I told ‘her’ I thought she was a freak and I didn’t want to have anything to do with her. Two years later, December 31, 2008, we were married. (Alana tells her side of our story in her memoir and you can read Chapter 1 at her book’s website).
Of course, my response to Alana came from MY ignorance and lack of experience with the trans-community. We live in a small town in Kentucky, so there is much ignorance and lack of experience with the trans-community in this area. It is our hope that sharing our journey together can help eliminate the ignorance and foster acceptance of trans-persons, not only in our small town, but all over the world.
However, acceptance is not instantaneous – it comes through a process – at least it did for me. My process began at intolerance, advanced to tolerance, eventually became acceptance and grew into love.
I’m a Kentucky girl raised in the Baptist faith and would have never dreamed I’d be such a staunch advocate for the trans-community, BUT, here I am – and mine is a ‘wonderful world.’
One of my favorite lines from the 2012 movie, “Cloud Atlas” (directed by Lana Wachowski) is: “Yesterday, I believed I never would have done what I did today. I feel like something ‘important’ has happened to me.”
Nicholas Snow likened us unto Amazon’s Golden Globe winning show, “Transparent” in his Huffington Post article, where you can also listen to our interview with Mr. Snow.
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